It’s been a hot summer, the first really hot summer since I moved to North Carolina. I finally got out for a walk around the lake behind my house the other day. The lake is often a refuge for me – a place to get out of my head, see, smell and hear a little nature, and let the movement of my feet bring the rhythms of my mind back into a steady, even pace.
This last walk, I passed a woman wearing a t-shirt that said, “The whole world is a mirror of your life.” As we moved into earshot range, I couldn’t help but overhear her briefly. She clearly wasn’t happy, as she said something to the effect of “So here I am, completely on my own, again, like always… and none of them want to get involved”.
The contrast between the statement in her mouth and the statement on her shirt followed me all the way home.
A friend recently shared an article with me, which led me to this one: The Science of Happiness: Why Complaining Is Literally Killing You. It’s worth a gander. In short, though, Parton explains that the habits of our thinking actually shape our physical brain, making it more efficient for our brains to think thoughts we think often. In other words, our thoughts manifest our physical reality.
Our thoughts manifest our physical reality.
“The whole world is a mirror of your life.”
Even though we sometimes say we speak without thinking, we never do. We might speak without fully thinking through the implications of our words, but we do think before we speak. Our brains change as we feel, think, speak. Our words have the power to shape our reality.
It’s easy in a moment of frustration to vent, to choose words that express our hurt, our resentment, our fear. But these feelings draw us away from happiness. It does not mean they aren’t valid feelings. But by “venting”, we are choosing to identify with those feelings of hurt, resentment, fear. Our brains become, for the moment, primed to perceive the world in terms of hurt, resentment and fear. In other words, we tend to perceive the world in harmony with our thoughts and emotions. The world that we perceive becomes a mirror of what is in our heads.
What if we chose, instead, love, forgiveness, and openness? What would those words sound like, coming from that place? What would we manifest in our brains? What would we prime our brains to perceive in the world around us? What would the world mirror back to us?